Everyone changes their rules over the years as they grow and learn more about the lifestyle and about themselves as a couple and as individuals. Here are some rules you might like to use as a starting place for your first venture into swinging. Modify them to what gives you the most pleasure.
1) Soft Swing Only (this means no penetrating anyone except your mate) on your first swing experience so you can discuss things after you leave the party or other couple to see how you feel about your new experiences.
2) Never separate. Stay together and always within an arms length of each other your first night. At the club or after you leave if you go on to a party.
3) Either person of the couple has absolute, unquestionable, VETO power if they do not feel comfortable with or attracted to any one person or the other couples.
4) Do not settle for the sake of your partner. For example, if you are attracted to someone's wife, but your wife doesn't find her husband attractive, then don't expect your wife to play with him just so you can play with his attractive wife.
It is important to remember that these are only starter rules to help you get started. Customize them and modify them to suit you and make you both happy and get the most enjoyment and pleasure from this lifestyle. Everyone has their own boundaries and guidelines that work for them. These rules do not have to be your rules... They may not work for you and you might want to have much more conservative rules for yourselves to start with.
One of the most valuable lessons you'll learn is to respect everyone's individual choices in the lifestyle and not to be critical. It all comes down to you and your mate..... No one else matters.
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